Precious Days

As my two month long vacation comes to an end, the thing that I loved most is that I got to spend quality time with kids. That was one of my goals and am so glad I got to do it. (It seems like we all parents should spend quality time with kids every day, not just on vacations, but sadly such is not the case πŸ˜”). 

When kids were still in preschool, I had them stay with me for two days a week. We got to go out on hikes, read books, play and etc. Once the school closed, I had them staying home with me and these couple of days, with just three of us alone, are the most precious days, I think. 

Surely it was more work but I felt so good about it. It is easily one of the best times I had with kids. 

I didn’t set a daily routine for them, but what I had was couple of things that needed to be done every day. Like reading and doing work books. Kids loved to do it and I loved doing it with them. So in the secret hideout we assigned for this work, we spent some time every day. I so love teaching kids something new. We did crazy math problems, learnt about money and just about read a hundred books. It’s so precious to watch them read too. Watching your kid read is easily one of the most memorable milestones. It is just so awesome. 

One of the other things I loved about these days is that, Abhi and Achu came back to their usual sweet playing together mode. At least, at this age they are great playing with each other. They invent a ton of pretend games, use pillows and blankets to make forts, and also build silly machines that build silly things. Together, they color, cut paper and use glue like there is no tomorrow. Even at bed time, they talk non-stop about everything until I go yell at them. Their free time play plans are never ending. Never. 😊 And I am so glad it’s that way. It’s amazing to see your kids get along and play with each other. I sure hope it will stay this way forever. 

Next thing we did together was go to parks. And this is what bummed me out big time. We never took kids to parks as much as I did now. I mean we did a bit, but you know we could have done it so much more. But we didn’t. It took me a vacation to figure this simple thing out. Really. During these couple of days, I took kids to park almost twice every day. There were days when the weather was better, we played, came home to eat and went back to play. I also discovered new parks around and they are so good and important for kids play. I always worried kids are behind on their motor skills, never occurred to me that we should have taken them out more. Rain or shine. 


With cold weather coming, we essentially shut ourselves inside home, and only head out on few planned trips. I need to break it this time. We need to head out more. 

With time and energy on my hands, I gave them healthy food. Made sure they got their proper servings of fruits, veggies and dairy. Fed them carefully. Made them extra snacks. Took them on small walks as well. Planned a day out with them and spent 3 hours watching them play. Helped Achu get better at her scooter rides. Took them to eat out; Even played hide and seek with them in a store.πŸ˜ƒ I even reduced their tv time to one hour and made a new no ask policy. The rule is still working great. πŸ˜ƒ



Truly gave them my best and treated them the best. Didn’t get to yelling or hurrying them over anything. Sometimes it’s great when you don’t have to go somewhere and can just follow kids. I had those wonderful days with them. I will always cherish these precious days. Where they were my number one priority and I had nothing else to attend to. 

Soon all this is going to change. I will have so many other things to worry about and kids will be just another thing. It’s truly sad to see that as a parent I don’t have the freedom to choose what I want to do and spend more quality time with kids. Instead I have to bow to rules and obligations and lose what should be precious moments. I hope I will do better than how it was when I was working previously. I can only hope and pray. 

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Little Things

It’s been ages I wrote anything about what Abhi and Achu say these days. When they were three or four, it was all about the funny things they used to say, but these days it’s more than that. They still say funny things and make me laugh so much, but as they grow up, I also find the kind things they do amaze me. 

And thanks to my break from the bloody mechanical life, I got back to writing some down so I could finally remember and blog them. 

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One of the funnier things kids do these days is talk to their brain. Like they poke their brain and say “Brain, why are you thinking about zombies right now?”  That was Abhi. 

“Brain… stop thinking about legoland”.  Achu can’t stop thinking about it. 

It’s funny that from these conversations, I realize they are correlating stuff. Like we are talking about some food and Abhi says, ” brain why are you remembering my friend now. Oh. Maybe because we ate this food last time at their house.” 😊

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Abhi found an old pen.

“This pen is so old. We should throw it to a grasshopper to roll on” 

I laughed but didn’t ask why a grasshopper will like that. 😊

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Abhi builds a lego scanner. He build a thermometer once too. This one, though, is a price scanner. He scans my phone and goes, ” your phone is $40 Amma”. There you go. If you want a brand new iPhone, Abhi is selling it for super cheap. 

Then, he scans Achu and goes, 

“Achu, you are $100. You are so expensive no one is going to buy you”. 

Achu is very happy. “Yayy!!! I can stay home forever”

“But Achu, you will be living in Costco, not here”.

Achu was more happier about living in Costco than at home. 

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Kids go to kindergarten now and come back with new sentences. Abhi goes, “We should always have a positive attitude “. And when I ask him what attitude means, he admits he doesn’t know and asks himself “Abhi, why do u say stuff that you don’t know about?”

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I ask Achu to stop swishing saliva in her mouth and she tells me, ” But Amma, I am building a swimming pool for bacteria in my mouth”.

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When we drive short distances, I let kids sit in the back without getting buckled up. Sometimes they sit in between the front seats, facing the back of the car. Abhi and Achu pretend they are back cameras to my car. “Beep beep, Amma keep driving. No trees on road”. 

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And now probably the most lovable things they say is when they are being kind. One of the last days, we were in hurry, I was tensed. I ask Achu what breakfast she wants and she asks for just milk and tells me, “I am going easy on you by asking for easy breakfast Amma”. 

Anything like me saying ouch or having something go wrong with what I was doing will be followed by an, ” are you okay, Amma?” in the sweetest tones. 

Achu comes and rubs gently on my shoulders or hair when I was frustrated.I noticed this today that whenever I get close to Abhi’s face, he automatically shows me his cheeks because he thinks I am going to kiss him. I sooo love that. πŸ˜ƒ

They also keep reminding each other of things I have asked them to do. Like if I asked them to try eat without making a mess, as soon as the second one makes that mistake, other one goes, “remember what Amma said?”

Last week I pretended to be unconscious to see what they do (I also wanted to teach them what to do in such cases). Since this was the first time, they both were a bit shocked. Abhi was really close to my face, touching my face, trying to wake me up. Achu was also trying to wake me up. They were so sad for a minute that I had a give up my act. 

Finally, when I start smiling a bit, Achu goes, “she is up. Let’s go play Abhi”. Not wasting a minute πŸ˜ƒ.

Sometimes when I am mad about something, they decide to cheer me up by cleaning. They take tiny paper towels t the living room and start cleaning all the furniture. 

Recently, they watched a scary Halloween show and Abhi started not going anywhere alone. Achu too, at some level. So they help each other get stuff they want from other rooms, going together. 😊

They drive me crazy a zillion times everyday, but sometimes they shower me with these acts and I love them so much. It’s such a blessing to see these young kids being kind and compassionate. Isn’t it? 😊 

KindergartensΒ 

I ask myself this question a zillion times – where did the last five years go? Because I still think of Abhi and Achu in diapers, and here they are going to kindergarten. My babies are already kindergarteners and I couldn’t be more amazed. 

Last week was the first week. I was going to manage all the changes all by myself and I was so damn scared.  Abhi and Achu aren’t exactly excited about changes. Especially seeing the last two years, they cried for months going to their new schools. It was so hard for them to get used to the new school and surroundings. And naturally harder for us too. 

So this time I was more scared than they probably were. Especially with the schedule changes. They would go to a public school. They need to leave house by 8 in the morning. I need to pack snacks, lunches, after snacks etc. I was super worried they would cry and cling to me. Plus I was pretty much sleepless myself the whole two weeks before. 

So I just left what happens to fate and did what I could. Gave up on my sleep, and focused on preparing kids. I read books, talked about them endlessly. I talked so much that at one point, when I was talking about morning routine, Abhi finishes what I was going to say with “For the love of God, don’t cry tomorrow and be safe”. I laughed out loud. Looks like he got  the message. 

Few days earlier, we found out that kids we know are in Achu’s class. I was relieved to hear that. At least she might be in better shape. Abhi didn’t have anybody he knew, but I tried not to think about that. 

The first day finally arrived. Needless to say, the night before I didn’t sleep a bit. I woke up, made meals ready, breakfast too, woke them up and got ready and walked to school. They met their friend and we took some pictures. Kids were having fun, excited about the sorroundings. I was silently praying they would go without crying. And they did. πŸ˜ƒ

Such an accomplishment if you ask me. To not see those hurt and scared faces in the morning is a blessing. We have seen how bad it can be and it breaks my heart to imagine what goes on in their head. How scared they must be.

Anyway, luckily this year so far has been better. Achu was teary a day or two. Luckily her friend helped. She already made a friend or two. And thanks to me, kids have been playing at the park almost every other day with their new friends from class and it’s so nice to see them make new friends. 

All is going well so far. I am still trying to get used to the morning schedule. Of course, real trouble will begin when I start work. Now I am making all time and energy to give them the best experience. When I start work, they will be out of house 8 – 6 PM. I can’t imagine having them out for so long. πŸ˜”

Future worries aside, I am so proud of my kindergarteners. They are already so full of new wisdom. Things they say and do. They already look smart. I have been watching their work come home and although it’s all stuff they already know, I just love seeing them learn and display their work proudly. 

Hope this year will be truly better and we have happy days ahead. We have a big trip this week and we are making kids miss school for a week. Now I just need for this schedule to not get jinxed and continue to have non crying kids when we come back. It is so important for my mental peace and theirs too.  πŸ˜Š

Into Phase 2

Okay. Phase 1 of my vacation is done. That was all of August. And I have to say it was awesome. I managed to do a little of everything. My parents were here so I spent some time with them. I had kids with me few days a week so I took them out as well. Finally the long awaited dream of taking time for myself too. I went shopping, managed a ton of chores, read two books, went hiking etc etc. πŸ˜ƒ

I have to say it was weird having free time. Especially the last week of August, right before my parents left, for some reason I didn’t plan the whole week so reading a book in bed was my go to activity. It was hot otherwise I would have gone for a walk, again. πŸ˜ƒ I had to also tell myself that I don’t have to feel guilty about just reading in bed. Otherwise I was thinking that my vacation days need to be full of activities. This lazy reading was one too. I still do think it was a luxury and I am so glad I had time for that and enjoyed it. 

Last week of August also brought a rare and historic event to us. The solar eclipse. I didn’t realize how much I wanted to see it until it was here but then it was too late. We didn’t even prepare well so I was thoroughly disappointed that day. But I have to say if totality is happening anywhere close to you don’t miss it because we had 90% eclipse and that itself was amazing. It’s nothing like watching on Tv. Even where we were the day looked so different like somebody dimmed the lights down. It wasn’t like dusk at all. Very different and amazing. We caught the shadows here. 


We did a very very quite vinayaka chavithi pooja at home this time and I am not happy at all. So next Monday, I decided I will do my own pooja and celebrate it again. 😊

Kiddos finished their preschool officially and will be kindergarteners next Monday. I am super excited and super scared. If it’s going to by anything like last two years, I have a scary ride in front of me. πŸ˜” We will see how that goes.

Then we said goodbye to Tatha and Pati. It was hard but nothing I could do. 

See, this is why we go to airports 😊. 


And that was the end of phase 1. 

And now into phase 2, kids are with me full time. Murali left a few days later on a two week business trip to London and Paris. He won’t be back until mid September. Unfortunately I lost all the help at once. Having kids full time at home is very weird.  Ask me what I have done for the last week and half. I can’t tell you. Only that I was super busy, but I didn’t get anything done like I did in August. My checklist keeps growing and nothing gets done. And still I am super busy. 

Here we are, playing hide and seek in a store. πŸ˜ƒ


Add to that, regular kids watching, play dates, park trips, kindergarten school activities etc etc. Phew! There is so much pending. 

But I still feel good about spending this time with them. I know I have lot of busy work in front of me, still my head is free of work stress and thoughts and that itself is a blessing. 

Kiddos new school starts next week. I really really really hope this time transition is smoother. I saw Abhi crying in his sleep the other night about something, he was so worried and that was a clear reminder of how the days go when kids went to new schools last time. I soooo can’t see that worried faces again. This time, I hope they settle down faster and better.