Keeping Score…

Dear Karma,

Let me start out by apologizing about not writing to you sooner. I should have. The only reason being that, work, home, kids – in short life has been keeping me very busy.

So, I am writing out to you today to seek your approval for the following. You see, I am afraid you will see my acts as a violation of basic ethics and punish me by taking some good karma points away from me. So, before you make drastic decisions and bring my good karma points ( which, btw, are already at the lowest possible), please listen to my side of story.

Few months ago, I was at Pro Club. I was still the new mommy and as soon as my OBGYN said I could exercise, I rushed out to Pro Club and made an appointment with a personal trainer to find out how should I get myself back into shape (Yes, I am laughing out loud too). Trainer gave me a bunch of exercises. After I was done, I was heading out and realized this was supposed to be a paying session but nobody has asked me to pay the fee (some $80). Now, I could have just walked out of there as if I don’t owe these guys anything. But, I didn’t. I asked my trainer (Good Karma act #1), she said, I could pay at the reception. She didn’t care I paid or not. See, I could have walked out again without paying. But, I didn’t. I went to the reception and told them I need to pay for the session (Good Karma act #2). They asked for my card, I realized my purse was still in my car. I walked back to the car, got my purse and paid the fee off (Ultimate Good Karma Act –  #3).

Did you see what a good person I was? If others were in my place, would they ask and pay? Would you?

For weeks, the Good Act remained in my thoughts. As our grandparents and parents told us, what goes around, comes around, I was waiting for some good to happen in return. I waited and waited.

One day, the return act of good karma arrived in mail. It went by the name “Pampers Sensitive Baby Wipes”. We signed and received the package, just like the ton of packages (mostly diapers) we receive from Amazon.com for Abhi and Achu. Hours later, I realized, I didn’t order these wipes.  I had other wipes for the twins, and these didn’t match my list. I checked the shipment label and it was addressed to our apartment, but, guess what, wrong owner name. It turns out, ex-residents of our apartment ordered these wipes from amazon for their baby, but they forgot to get it shipped to their new address. And the wipes ended up at our place, addressed to the wrong person. Was this really the good return act of my good acts from weeks ago?

Mind you, I didn’t go rushing to claim it mine. I waited, again, for a good amount of time. A really good amount. I waited for some one to contact and ask for the return. No one did. Well, surely I could have gone back to the leasing office and returned the package, but I couldn’t. Please read the first few lines again. I kept waiting. More than a good amount of time. Until, one day (last Friday), we realized we were out of the wipes for Abhi and Achu and I havent ordered any new ones (Hmm..I wonder why!!!) and they really needed the wipes box not addressed to us . You see, baby bottoms were on line here. So, we opened the box. Even if it’s not ours.

Now that you have read the story, I hope you can see how I should not be punished for using what was clearly not ours. If you further need some convincing, please consider this quote from Murali (who also was the real person to open the box) – “Every Wipe has a bottom’s name written on it.” (True, don’t you think?)

If you are still not convinced, Please do considering talking to me first before you do something truly-yours.

Yours < Already Suffering With Good Karma Deficiency Syndrome> gal, Dil.

Baby News

Did you hear about the baby

-> who, sometimes, sleeps with her right leg up in air; Exactly at right angles. She makes it even more amusing when she does this sleeping in her swing. You see, swing goes right, her leg goes left. 😀

-> who magically draws energy from his fingers overnight. So much so that he refuses to let his mom take his fingers out of his mouth ( this action often results in screaming, from either the mom or the baby).

-> who thinks her baby brother is a toy. How else would you explain she licking, kicking and scratching him?

-> who pulls his own hair and screams in pain. This is why he has less hair on his little head.

-> who rolls over in all directions pretty well, but wont go beyond the blanket she is on. (Good gal, huh!!)

-> who wouldn’t stop jumping in his jumperoo. (Well, that’s what this toy is for anyway)

-> who loves her blankets so much that she WONT sleep on her back without having one on her.

-> who is in love with the light in the walking closet. He goes to bed staring at it; He wakes up staring at it. (Hmm, if only I glowed, he would be looking at me all the time too.)

-> who donned the investigator cap, teamed up with her dad and found out that not every light in the serial set is green. (You see, I had that set for over 4 years, but I never knew that.)

-> who rolls on his tummy, but can’t roll himself back on to his back. (aka more screaming)

-> who wants to touch everything. Hot, cold, soft. Doesn’t matter to her. Well, it does to me!!!

-> who tries to stuff 2 more fingers in his mouth when he already has 2 in there.

-> who wants to eat everything with a spoon. Even water. There is no more sucking for her unless she is sleeping, that’s what she demands.

-> who can trick his mom into slowly/silently moving the bottle away and replacing it with his fingers. (Earlier, mom may have tricked him by slowly/silently replacing his fingers with bottle nipple).

2012 In Answers

Okay. Okay. Calm down people. No, It’s not too late to pick up a tag on 2012 and do it in mid-february. See, we just passed the chinese new year and we are at least a month away from the Indian one. So, its okay to do this now.  And more so because Sia tagged me. To lure you all more into this, see, I have used C O L O R S.

1. What did you do in 2012 that you’d never done before?

Simple. Delivered two babies. 🙂  

2. Did you keep your new years resolutions, and will you make more for next?

Nope. I never cared for resolutions. But this year is different. I do have some, I will write them down before christmas arrives. I promise.

3. What date from 2012 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

24th July. Thats the day my two little people stepped in to this world and my arms.  

4. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

I have a feeling my answer to every question in here is going to include Abhi and Achu. Okay, to answer the question, carried my twins to almost full term. Thats probably my greatest achievement so far.

5. What was your biggest failure?

Not able to let go of past. Not able to bring a change I wanted to in a person I know.

6. Did you suffer illness?

To avoid the risk of making this answer look like some line picked up from a medical journal, let me just say yes and move on.

7. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?

List is long.

8. Where did most of your money go?

Baby stuff. Too much. I am glad that insurance covers the medical expenses, otherwise my answer would be BABY STUFF.

9. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

Getting back into shape after delivery. There was this dress I wanted to wear after I delivered and lost all the weight. I thought if I could fit into it, I can consider myself back to normal. Well, guess what, I can fit into it, but, I realized I picked the wrong dress. I still have 10 pounds to lose. 😦

10. What song will always remind you of 2012?

This one. Just for the number of times I sing it in a day. And for the impact it has on Abhi and Achu. (as of 2/12/13 11:23 am PST)

11. Compared to this time last year, are you happier or sadder?

Happier, of course.

12. What do you wish you’d done more of?

Sleeping. 🙂

13. What do you wish you’d done less of?

I wish I freaked out less about my pregnancy and delivery. All in all, it all turned out okay anyway.

14. Did you fall in love in 2012?

oh yes. And you can just guess who the lucky duo are.

15. What/Who was your greatest musical discovery?

For a while, I slipped out on listening to music. I was afraid babies in my womb wont like it. (Crazy I know, don’t make a face). So, getting back to listening to it was good enough for a discovery.

16. What did you want and get?

A healthy pregnancy and two healthy babies.

17. What did you want and not get?

I didn’t get to have fun. I didn’t get to laugh lot loud. I didn’t get to meet my best friends.

18. What was your favourite film of this year?  

Of the very few films I watched, Batman. Because that happened to tbe he one I watched after a tiring pregnancy and delivery. It was soooo good to sit in the theatre and enjoy some super awesome action. Hunger games too.

19. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

You wont believe this. Only twist to the usual diaper changing day was that I Went to library. I still regret that this is how I will remember my first birthday as a mother.

20. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

Laughing.

21. What kept you sane?

My dream world. I practically live there.

22. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2012.

I don’t know if I could call this lesson, its more of a realization. I realized that I have to let go of something despite wanting it sooooo badly. This realization causes me less pain now. Thats what lessons are for. Isnt it? They teach you something and you benefit from it.

23. Which new places did you visit in 2012?

Overlake child birth center. 🙂

24. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year

Nothing comes to my mind. Its too complicated to be in a song, anyway.

25. Tag some bloggers you would love to read these answers from.

Because almost everyone did this and because I still have to tag someone, I tag Abhi and Achu. 😀 . Yeah, I do love to read what they think of their first year on planet earth. 🙂

One Dinner

Murali and I met in the August of 2007. 6 days later we got engaged. And exactly 6 months later we got married. Six years later we became parents. No, this post is not about the significance of number six in our lives, but just that sixth wedding anniversary of ours was yesterday. And in a household where babies get all the prominence , anniversary is no different. So instead of getting each other anything, we turned the day into another special day for the twins and bought them gifts. 🙂

Being a work day, we didn’t get to do anything exciting. And with a ton of workload, I was not in mood for taking the day off. We originally planned to head to Palm Springs for a short vacation for the anniversary, but that didnt happen.

So, heading out to a restaurant was the only thing we could do. And we did just that. In twin parents world, it’s a big deal, you know. Because, taking two 6-month olds to a restaurant where the babies might behave any way is not easy. Of course, I said no at first with a ton of questions; What if they both cry at the same time, what if we had to wait, what if someone drops something hot on them? What if they poop? Etc. Etc. Murali, somehow, convinced me that we could go late in the evening so that Abhi and Achu will be almost asleep and they might just continue to sleep. I also finally realized that I can’t wait for eternity without exposing Abhi and Achu to restaurants (we have got too much take outs), so I said yes.

Initially Achu was crying, soon she calmed down in the car and by the time we reached restaurant, both were asleep. While at the restaurant, we got the table quickly. I wanted to keep the babies in the stroller and close to the table, so that we don’t disturb them, but despite getting a corner table, we were told stroller wouldnt fit easily. So we ditched the stroller and carried the car seats to the table with Abhi and Achu sound asleep. Hmm.. So far so good.

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We scanned the menu quickly and ordered food even before the waiter could introduce himself. 🙂 Looked like the waiter got the idea that we were in a hurry (or may be just that it was almost closing time, even they wanted to rush). Appetizers arrived quickly. Murali was in a mood to quickly eat and get out too, but I made him put the spring roll back in to the plate so that I could at least take a picture. Meanwhile, he came up with a joke that we should call these winter rolls. 🙂 Yeah.. This is where he expects us to laugh out loud 😀

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And when we were enjoying the crunchy spring winter rolls, came two sounds from within the closed canopies. Hmm. What was that? Could that be sounds of two babies waking up? Yep. Indeed. If you get a chance, please do think about, how exactly do babies know that the car they are in is not moving anymore? And what makes them wake up from that pleasant sleep? Is it that they don’t want to miss the hustle around? Is it that they smell the new food? or do they want to check out the restaurant so that they can write a review or they own? Why? May be, it’s that they think they have an awesome chance of showing how loud they can cry and shout, because Abhi and Achu did just that.

And guess who panicked when both Abhi and Achu started crying. Not me. 🙂 Murali was looking at me with a clueless face (Back at home, when I was hesitant on whether to go or not, he actually told me and I quote – ‘I will take care of everything’). Anyway, Twin-Working-Awesome ma of the year came to the rescue. 🙂 I took Abhi (coz, he was crying the loudest.). Achu was just in a playful crying mood (she means, if you get me out of this car seat and its straps, I may think about not making a scene. 🙂 ). We did get her out of the car seat, she blessed us with wonderful smiles and got busy with waving toys Murali gave her.

Meanwhile, sounding star of the restaurant, Abhi was getting louder. After a walk within the restaurant, a bottle of milk, showing him two light bulbs, a fleet of passing by cars and many many other things Abhi decided to calm a bit. Our food has arrived too, so I started eating a bite or two holding Abhi. Finally, Abhi calmed down. Later, he laughed too. Yeah…who knew couple of Damaal..Dimeel..Dum Dum Dum..sounds would make a baby laugh (Courtesy – dad).

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Food for everyone

P.F.Changs was one of Murali’s and my favourite one’s. But slowly the love is fading away just like the quality of food. It didn’t take me longer to call my dinner done. Soon, Murali was done too. Abhi and Achu went back to their car seats and slept in the car again.

After I came home,I realized how much I have changed. I didn’t complain for a second on being not able to eat like a normal restaurant eating (without having to worry about babies). I think this came to me slowly because the last time we went to eat out I panicked a lot (despite having my parents with me). This time, I was actually very happy that things could have gone more wrong and they didn’t.

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Note to Abhi and Achu: Did you just read what you both did your parents anniversary? When you grow up, you better make it up to us by throwing us a lavish party or maybe send us on a cruise. Thats okay too.

Note to Abhi: Abhi, You cry/shriek every time we try to get you to drink your milk. But you want to taste coke. Seriously.

Note to Dad : Achu loves to wave her hands and touch everything. Next time, please keep the spicy green beans plate away from her.

Another Weekend

* After what seemed like ages, weather was kind enough to let Murali and I take Abhi and Achu on a stroller walk. Last time we went for a walk, Abhi and Achu were really tiny. This time, I thought, Abhi and Achu would enjoy their greeny surroundings but guess who slept throughout the trip. :). Well, that gave some time alone for Murali and me. We walked to the nearby Tullys coffee and it was closed. (I don’t know what it is with this coffee shop and us, each time we head there, they are either closed or closing. This time, the store was shutdown completely. Good, at least , we don’t have to go back now. 🙂 )

* I bought rain coats for Abhi and Achu’s car seats. Thought that would make our life easier when we have to transport them from insides to the parking lot. Guess what; It hasn’t rained since. 🙂 Best 20 bucks I ever spent.

* I have a thing for scary movies. I like the thrill. I do get scared, but that’s a calculated risk I am taking, right?. I can safely get scared. So, after exhausting all our options by watching crappy scary movies, this week we had Paranormal Activity 4 available. (I recently watched PA3 as well and liked it). However, we couldn’t get to watch it overnight as I got into office work. Murali and I decided to watch it during the day, when Abhi and Achu were fully awake. Guess how it went. I was singing meaningless words to Abhi or Achu, making them laugh at the same time watching the ghost scare someone on-screen. Where is the thrill in that? Needless to say, we didn’t like it.

* Because I am asking you to guess a lot, do it one more time and guess who cooked a whole lot of food right in time for the weekend. Yep, no cooking on the weekend. Yayyy..

* Okay, I did cheat a bit when I said I cooked for the entire weekend. I thought I could indulge in some tasty and non-home made food on Saturday, so we ordered a take out. And guess what, it’s not tasty or even edible paneer tikka masala when the restaurant decides to dilute the gravy (to probably serve more customers) and use almost stale paneer. Someone at the restaurant got a decent bashing from me, but it was still my loss. Not that the money has gone waste, but my relaxing weekend experience went wrong ( All that I asked for was some tasty food that I didn’t make. sob, sob).

* If you do drop by the Bellevue mall and hear anyone at Talbots talk about the baby who peed in the store, that’s us. Yep. Abhi did pee in the store. It all started when Mr.Abhi got super cranky and crazy just in a second. Super confused Mom and dad got him out of the stroller and ran to a corner to change his diaper. They did their job well, but how the next sequence of events happened will remain a mystery. Next thing I know, I was showing Abhi himself in the mirror at Talbots and saw some liquid dripping down. Honestly, I had no clue what that was. I realized only a minute later and ran out of the store to check on his diaper again. But damage was already done by then. I only feel bad now that I didn’t go back to the store and apologize for what happened. Okay, as a first time mother whose baby accidentally peed in the store for the first time, I am allowed one mistake. Am I not?

* And what better weekend can I have these days than an extended weekend. I decided to take Monday off, slept the whole morning (after I handed the babies over to the nanny) and cooked 6 items for the week ahead. I know its only February, but you can hand over the best twin working mom of the year award to me. (No…Pee accident doesn’t impact my mothering skills ratings)