Mom n Dad

* Dad got promoted at work. He is now an Assistant General Manager. It’s very nice to see that despite having less than two years of service time left for him, his bosses have given him the promotion. Dad got the interview call when he was here with us. All his colleagues wanted to him to fly back to Hyderabad immediately and give the interview. But my dad decided not to leave because he wanted to be with Abhi and Achu. After he went to Hyderabad after 2 months, his bosses decided to reschedule the interview and dad made it. He so deserves it.

* Dad leaving for Hyderabad was very tough on mom. Firstly, the weather was getting worse so she was trapped inside with no exercise. Secondly, she was worried about her diabetic levels going high for the lack of exercise and thirdly, she worried about how dad was going to manage alone without her. Add to all these, she didnt have anyone who would convincingly tell her that she is going to be fine on her health aspect.

* The day my dad left for Hyderabad, we all looked fine. We all went down to the parking lot and mom started crying and dad’s eyes were wet. Before I knew, I was crying too.

* No matter how busy dad was or no matter how tired mom was, they would always make time to talk on phone. Dad calls first, mom answers, tells him she would call back from our phone, hang up, call and then talk.    I tell mom to disconnect dad’s call and just call back.  But dad insists that mom take his call and tell him that she will call back. Mom also insists that she take Dad’s call and tell him she will call back.

* We schedule a skype video call sometimes and after dad is done seeing the babies, we leave mom and dad alone ( 🙂 ) and they talk like they are cool and have no complaints.

* Murali and I asked mom to stay for couple of more weeks. But, thanks to the bad weather Mom wanted to leave. If I had really forced her, she would have stayed back for Abhi and Achu, but I didn’t. I never wanted keep her away from her life in Hyderabad where she is more comfortable and happy.

* And you know what happened next. I was going back and forth on should I go to India or stay here and try manage the twins… etc. etc. One day, Dad suggested that I stay here until end of March, continue working. Around March end, Dad will come pick me up and we four will go the Hyderabad and stay until July for the kid’s birthdays. Murali will join us in July and we all fly back. Hmm, Not that this option didn’t cross my mind before, but there is something about dad suggesting it. So I agreed without thinking anymore.

* Time for mom to fly back to her favorite place on the planet was fast approaching, I thought after mom leaves, I would freak out about either how to take care of twins or about how she was going to manage the travel all by herself.

* There was also another issue with mom leaving. You see, from my last 2-3 flights from Seattle, I have developed a habit of crying in the airport. More like sobbing. I am pretty sure Seattle airport people had me tagged. Back in 2009, my best friend P came to Seattle on a business trip. I was in California then. So Murali and I came here, we had such a wonderful trip that when I got back to the airport to go home, I was sobbing thinking of leaving my best friend. I remember, everyone in the security line telling me ‘Don’t cry. You will see them again’ etc. Just couldn’t control myself. The next time, in 2010, when I was leaving for my India trip, I did more than sobbing, this time, over the half-a-dozen things going terribly wrong with my life and my travel. So, counting down to the day mom was supposed to leave, one thing I strongly had on my mind was to – Not cry.

* The D-Day arrived even if I didn’t want it to. We all went to airport. check-in, security done. Mom left, crying a bit. I didn’t. Put on a brave face. Looks like all that I told myself to not cry worked.

* After we came home, I realized that I was neither worrying about mom’s solo travel nor about how I will manage the twins. I cried realizing how empty the house looked, how lonely I felt. Another thing that shockingly struck me is how Achu would react. As she sends most of her time with mom, will she know mom is gone? How will she take it?

* It’s been less than a week mom left. I won’t say things are fine. Neither that they are bad. Fortunately, Achu didn’t react much. I wanted to show her mom’s photo so that she won’t forget mom. But I didn’t.

* Mom is back at her home. I don’t know how Mom n Dad reacted seeing each other after a gap of 4 months. They never stayed away from each other for that long in many many years. I feel bad that I made them, but also happy that whatever time they spent away, mom was happy to have spent it with Abhi and Achu; Dad (as he claims it) happy to finally have a break from mom – where he can eat/cook whatever he wanted and be like whatever he wanted (in mom’s words – bored :)).

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24 thoughts on “Mom n Dad

  1. Good you didn’t cry….I am like always crying on departure and arrival in hyd..Even this time too i cried before coming to Canada.

    Your mom and dad would have been happy but they would be missing their grand kids…

  2. Lol on the remarks on your crying.. And such a sweet couple your Mom and Dad, they must have been glad to see each other. 🙂

    And guess what, my Dad works in Hyderabad and is waiting for his promotion to AGM too, 😉 He’s got 3-4 more years to retire, hope he gets it soon.

  3. Thats me , dropping mum and dad at the airport and the tears come because you never when you going to see them again …

    it is so ironical Same airport, same city, yet when you go to pick them up the heart is jumping up and down ..and you come to drop them it is crying …

    1. oh those moments are heart breaking…and me crying for my friend was the first time I cried ever over someone leaving..its very hard…but its equally happier when we recieve folks at the airport..

  4. hugs first 🙂 she will be back kiddo 🙂 don’t cry 🙂 🙂 the trip to airport is always a sob and a weight lifting journey. I hate airport or railway station 😦 I cry like anything when some one goes away!!! my mom never take me to places like this, since she is well aware that I may rub my nose in her saree and i will cry and make a scene 😉 😉

  5. It is never easy and things take time to get back to normal. But as the security personals said at the airport the simple fact that we will see them again makes most things OK. I imagine soon you will be excited about your India trip and smiling ear to ear.

  6. I can so relate my parents to how you described your parents! When my niece was born, the exact same things happened. But grandchildren bring a joy to them, which we cannot even imagine! 🙂
    Hope you guys are doing fine now, without them! 🙂

  7. Congrats to your dad!!

    You sound like me at the airport 🙂 I hate when people leave but, these days, I made a promise to myself not to cry at airports. My mom always does but, I don’t 🙂

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